The Projector burns holes into the slides Self righteousness has been in too long
Truth A new slide Projected onto the narcissist Desperate to quelch the flames
Mirror images are waiting Alone Mirages of former hope Waiting Dreaming That one day One day not too late You turn To look Into The mirror
Projections can be fierce both for the person who (often) unknowingly projects, as their perception of reality and relationships can be challenging to live with. And the projectee as they constantly are given aspects which are not part of their reality or identity. Becoming aware from both sides is important.
Interacting through art The only way to be part Warped realities thwart Truth in love apart
Until you come into yourself These are the times that’ll help To plant your feet in kelp Entangle your roots back to your self
That be the time you understand The breadcrumbs leading across all lands
Where always meant to be the way home Through tears and joy–back to blood and bones
That’ll be the days of brave When standing tall within yourself is save
Went to see stepchild's graduation exhibition. The only way for dad to interact. PA was visious, aggressive, full of lies and warped realities. Don't know how many times I wished we understood PA earlier.
Today I am not sharing my own work, but the work of my partner. He has worked in light-design for over 17 years, and on parental alienation day 2019, finally decided to create his own designs. The development took about a month, and as any good perfectionist, there are much more and more sophisticated things to be done if there would have been more time. The LED screen is 7×2 meters.
Background Interview
I interviewed dad erased before the live stream.
What was your inspiration?
I wanted to use colour and movement within the words displayed to highlight my own personal fears, anxieties, worries, and hate (anger) in dealing with parental alienation What inspired me were a lot of the words from various Twitter, Facebook, Blogs account of people talking about their own experiences of dealing with Parental Alienation and how they miss their kids, and the fights they have with systems that are adversarial; who choose to have a winner and a looser.
The other part of the inspiration (or admiration) is how, even after 10/12 years of battling with everything being against them in most cases they eventually are able to have an ongoing relationship with their kids. The saddest ones I have not talked about are the relationships that have not been fixed, the utterly completely broken relationships, and how it affects the targeted parents and the children as well, and sometimes it doesn’t get fixed, and it is such a loss of time, such a loss of time.
How did you go about developing the installation?
How I have done it is: this is just a tiny glimpse into how I feel about parental alienation. There is so much more that you could say; you could spend years researching PA and come up with so many different scenarios and situations and feelings and words. What I am trying to say is … the more I get into it; the more feeling I get behind it, and hopefully I can express better how I deal with it or how I am not dealing with it as an alienated parent myself.
What do you want to achieve?
I want to give a voice to the unseen who are lost in an adversarial system who chooses to establish winners and losers, and ultimately fails our children.
This is the glossary for the Abbreviations Section:
SAID – Sexual Allegations in Divorce CIAF – Child Impact Assessment Service VotC – Voice of the Child CMS – Child Maintenance Service CSA – Child Support Agency PASG – Parental Alienation Study Group PAAO – Parental Alienation Awareness Organisation Cafcass – Children and family court advisory and support Service NAAP – National Association of Alienated Parents MATCH – Mothers apart from their children FNF – Families need Fathers JUMP – Jewish Unity for Multiple Parenting FPS – Family Psychology Solutions DADs – Dads Against Double Standards PAPA – Parents Against Parental Alienation F4J – Fathers for justice SPARK – Support for the Parentally Alienated thru Random Acts of Kindness PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder WHO – World Health Organisation AAPA – Association Against Parental Alienation PAS – Parental Alienation Syndrome SPAN – Stop Parental Alienation Now PAWWSG – Parental Alienation World Wide Support Group FRI – Fathers Rights Ireland EAPAP – European Association of Parental Alientation Practitioners PAAA – Parental Alienation Awareness Association HAP – Hostile Aggressive Parenting PAA – Parental Alienation Awareness NAOPAS – National Association of Parental Alienation Specialists PASI – PAS Intervention NPO – National Parents Organization NPAF – NATIONAL PARENTAL ALIENATION FOUNDATION CSPAS – Canadian Symposium For Parental Alienation Syndrome PAD – Parental Alienation Disorder ECTHR – European Court of Human Rights ECHR – European Convention of Human Rights HRA – Human Rights Act Unicef – UN Convention on the Rights of the Child PEF – Platform for Europeans Fathers ICD-11 – WHO International Classification of Diseases JM2P – I Love My 2 Parents APIPDF – Association for Parental Equality and Children’s Rights BOLD – bubbles of love day HCS – High Conflict Separations CAFE – Canadian Association for Equality
Poetry by Nathalie 